I have had the opportunity to share the benefits of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) with many people of late. (Thanks to Froedert and Small Stones). As this technique is practiced, people start to loose their anxieties, pains,  sleeplessness, fears and overeating. They have starting telling me their stories and victories.

I am starting this post so we can share our successes. It always makes ME feel better to learn that another now  has less back pain or doesn’t feel afraid of heights because of practicing EFT.  It is so encouraging to hear that a REAL person has had the success that I may be striving for. And I’ll admit it- EFT is a little weird- so we always need to suspend our disbelief just a little more and TAP on more and more issues.

So I am providing this space so we can learn from each other.

Please help me- and share your experiences for the benefit of all!

If you want to understand stress, begin by realizing that you carry around with you your own set of preconceived notions of how things should be. It is based upon these notions that you assert your will to resist what has already happened. Where did you get these preconceived notions? Let’s say that seeing azaleas in bloom stresses you out. Surely that doesn’t bother most people. Why does it bother you? All we need to know is that you once had a girlfriend who grew azaleas, and she broke up with you when they were in bloom. Now every time you see azalea-your heart closes. You don’t even want to go near the things; they just create too much disturbance for you.

These personal events that take place in our lives leave impressions on our minds and hearts. Those impressions become the basis for asserting our will to either resist or cling. It’s no deeper than that. The events may have happened in your childhood or at various points throughout your life. Regardless of when they happened, they left impressions inside of you. Now, based on these past impressions, you are resisting the current events that are taking place. This creates inner tension, turmoil, struggle, and suffering. Instead of seeing this and refusing to allow past events to run your life, you buy into them. Believing they have real meaning, you put all your heart and soul into either resisting or clinging. But in truth, this entire process has no real meaning. It just destroys your life.

The alternative is to use life to let go of these impressions and the stress they create. In order to do this you have to become very conscious. You have to carefully watch the mental voice that tells you to resist some thing. It literally commands you: ‘I don’t like what he said. Fix it.’ It gives you advice and tells you to confront the world by resisting things. Why do you listen to it”? Let your spiritual path become the willingness to let whatever happens make it through you, rather than carrying it into the next moment. That doesn’t mean you don’t deal with what happens. You’re welcome to deal with it, but first let the energy make it through you. If you don’t, you will not actually be dealing with the current event, you will be dealing with your own blocked energies from the past. You will not be coming from a place of clarity, but from a place of inner resistance and tension.”

The Untethered Soul- the journey beyond yourself by Michael A. Singer

People that I meet are tightening up, clutching, fearing… The News is Pied Pipering us down a dark, isolated road. We push and shove against foes we cannot really see. Can there be an alternative to this ‘life’? Can I relocate to a different mind set?

In reading Michael A. Singer’s book ‘The Untethered Soul’ I was presented a new perspective. The book has a decidedly ‘Spiritual’ not religious viewpoint, but it was hopeful and believeable. He states on page 149: 

“One should view their spiritual work as learning to live life without stress, problems, fear, or melodrama. This path of using life to evolve spiritually is truly the highest path. There really is no reason for tension or problems. Stress only happens when you resist life’s events. If you’re neither pushing life away, nor pulling it toward you, then you are not creating any resistance. You are simply present. In this state, you are just witnessing and experiencing the events of life taking place. If you choose to live this way, you will see that life can be lived in a state of peace.’

This philosophy also echoed by Eckhart Tolle and many others, brings a sigh of relief. There are tools to use to change the hopelessness and frustration. As I become aware of myself both in and out of the present moment, there is a return of confidence and inner knowing. I can feel the difference. Witnessing myself in drama becomes different from loosing myself in it. I feel more clarity and peace. Yippeeeeeeeeeee.

I believe that most of us have a safe, calm inner space that we go to for refuge when the world moves too fast around us. The intention of this blog is to share these peaceful spaces and creative insights so that others may be inspired. 

 I am a life coach who is focused upon teaching stress reduction techniques.   One method is to explore the Space for Peace that others visit- be it through nature, breathing, envisioning or prayer. I invite you to share your place- real or imagined, your physical practice, or the words or phrases that are personally empowering.